Think about what our lives are like today; all the stress, the buzz, the overpowering technology, the crush of people in the cities, the processed food making us sick; it’s no wonder there is so much anger out there in the world, and all of us need to maintain some form of anger control just to get through the day. Holding in anger and rage can have a negative effect on you physically, and it is not a good idea emotionally to hold in your feelings, however strong they may be.
We’re taught from a very early age, from as soon as we can think and understand; it is not a good thing to express your anger or your emotions, and to try and hold that anger in check and don’t act out even though you feel like taking matters into your own hands and blowing off steam. The resulting effect is stress, rage against someone who was not part of the initial problem, abuse, and all out murder. It is a very healthy thing all the way around, to vent that anger and rage, or sadness, or fear; and in doing so make that venting a directed one by using anger control.
Studies have shown that combining the mental stress and need for anger catharsis with a physical outlet is one of the most effective means of anger control. By letting the anger and rage pour out of you while you engage in a venting means of physical action designed to trigger the anger point and flush out your system; in the long run, you will gain control over your angry actions and be able to rise above it and calm yourself. Sometimes, if you are angry with a particular person who has done something against you; just ripping up papers, or burning something , or shouting will do the trick and vent the anger. Other times, the rage is more pronounced; or has built up over the years, so something like taking a baseball bat and smashing things, or throwing dishes against a wall (old ones), or screaming while pounding a pillow will help you vent and calm down. Just by getting a system of anger control in place will help you in other areas of your life, like curing insomnia and improving your overall health.
Whatever method you use to vent your anger, never never hurt the person directly who was the cause of the anger in the first place. A battle of words is acceptable and many times you can use effective anger control just by a forceful verbal exchange; but do not involve the individual physically in your outburst to release the anger. The best way to get rid of deep anger against another person, is to have a symbol of that person in front of you (like a photo) and throw things at it, or burn it, or stab it with a knife.
When you need to get away and put your anger control method into action, do just that—-get away by yourself so you can act out your anger without having all kinds of interruptions or peeping eyes that will make you feel self conscious and inhibit the venting process. Get into a back room somewhere, or someplace where you can be alone for a while and no one will bother you, and let it rip. Grab those pillows and whack them unmercifully, rant and rave and scream until your throat hurts—just do it, and get it all out. After you are done, you’ll be pooped; but you will have gotten all that pressure out of you without involving anyone else, and you’ll feel so much better.
To experience true catharsis when you are filled with anger and are trying to work through it; is to truly forgive the person who did you wrong in the first place. Letting the rage build and build inside you is nothing but detrimental, and can harm you physically if you don’t do something about it. Anger control is a sure thing when you can be the bigger person and forgive your adversary, and truly mean it….it will improve your whole outlook on life and clear your head.
Keeping pressured rage and anger pent up inside you day in and day out, is not good for anyone around you nor is it good for you. Life is full of stress and hardship and people wanting to walk all over you just to better themselves, and if you let all that hurt and sadness and anger stay inside and never let it out in a positive way, you will be the worse for wear. Everyone, no matter what station in life they are, needs anger control that can help them stay calm and unstressed and be able to defuse the stresses in life as they occur. Life is to short to stay angry and hurting all the time; anger control will help you make the most out of life and feel good about it in the process.
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