We all get angry every now and then and usually express it in some sort of way so that the headaches and stress level that eventually will make you sick are alleviated. The so-called “getting it off your chest”. Well, there are thousands of people that can’t do that effectively and suffer from what is called anger disorder.
One of the signs of having an anger disorder is if you find yourself screaming, shouting, yelling at your friends and family, or co-workers on a regular basis. So much so that people start steering clear of you when they see you coming, or walk on eggshells when they are with you. Included in this yelling behavior is name calling, blaming, ridiculing and the heavier duty actions like door slamming, bullying and finger pointing all of which are dead giveaways that you have a problem.
Another side of an anger disorder could be that of total anger suppression, where you never get angry at all and keep everything locked up inside. The trouble with that is that you will build up to the point internally that you will eventually explode and say and do things you normally would not. And your health suffers from this kind of activity: you may suffer from depression as a result, or are tired all the time because of the force needed to hold all that anger in all the time. Also, your immune system will be affected and you will begin to feel sick a good share of the time that will eventually progress into more serious afflictions.
Another type of anger disorder is that where the person with the disorder is addicted to anger and rage and enjoys the good feeling they get whenever they express that rage so much, that that expression becomes an addiction—-a compulsive-addictive pattern. This will happen over and over again, and quite often this disorder is the result of unresolved grief.
A term very familiar to the average man on the street these days is passive-aggressive behavior, and this is a common form of anger disorder. This behavior quite often occurs on the unconscious level, and because of that, it is referred to as “sideways anger” where the person with the disorder will keep teasing and teasing someone until they hurt that person’s feelings, or they kid a person unmercifully. This anger disorder uses humor as a weapon and always has a victim especially in cases where sarcasm is used often, or cynicism—-or making a statement to ridicule someone by delivering it in the form of a question—-”You’re not really going to wear that dress, now are you?’
Another type of anger disorder that manifests itself all too often in today’s society is that of intermittent explosive disorder; an actual diagnosed disorder where the sufferer becomes so out of control with his anger that he goes off the deep end, or over the top. The anger and rage are so out of control that they do not match the situation, and quite often can lead to dire consequences.
We all feel anger and rage sometimes when our lives and the people around us pressure us to the point of no return; but if we are not suffering from an anger disorder, we usually just vent the anger in a constructive way and get on with the business at hand. That is not the case for people who suffer from these disorders, and unless they get the help they need to control their impulses; their lives will always be plagued with outbursts, social alienation, and physical discomfort.
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